Suraj Shah
Civil Engineer, Gulmi
“Ham yar hea tumarea dildar hea tumahre ham sea milakaro ’’ was
playing in a slow speed tractor in the road of Gulmi- Majua which is haunted by
Brahmin shopkeepers.
I was taking rest at the one side of
hotel for hour ordering 2 cup tea of rupees 20 per each. Then, suddenly one
middle aged person entered in to hotel, he was frustrated and his eyes were
red. I asked him what happened as I was
in the process of connecting with local people.
He took little time to say word as
he was about to wear woolen cap as waves of winter were becoming amplified, I
was looking to him constantly and he finally answered that one person talk to
him very rudely in mass of people with rude behavior .I was curious about the exact
reason but he was not in the mood to talk so I made a mind to open Facebook.
Then he ordered 1 cup of tea and half plate chow- mein and seemed to be little bit
cool .He suddenly asked “Sir, where is your home ?” And I replied that I’m from this and
that place and I work here and there. Then the scenario came to action mania
when he came close to me and I ask his name and he was Mr. Purna kumar darlami,
a local bus driver. He said that he had gone to his boss house as his pickup
van was went to reserve for 1 week but unfortunately vehicle was unable to do
so due to technical defect. And boss said that look prune I speak straight and
honest and you people don’t care about other property only come with problem in
vehicle, you ****** and your mind is not in driving .only think of salary not
of profit to me .from today you are fired from and listen that your health is
like of old people and u can’t do anything in a life and get some lesson to
drive at least, you **** ruined my expensive vehicle get lost from my front and
never talk to me from today. I was fired after those words and I didn’t ask for
remaining salary………..
Then he added I never say no to him
for work and I accept that was little bit less experienced but he didn’t
remember and talk to me in such rudeness and vulgar way and at least he could
told those words in polite manner so I am disturbed sir. And he made a sign of
1 glass local wine for hotel owner and made a shot….. And he went to his house
through walk as I was looking to him for while ….
Then I was compelled to think if
that boss had talked or said that words in polite manner like…I used to and
still assume that words can be spoken in polite manner, it is not compulsion to
talk in rude manner to say honest words or honest topic .politeness can alter
your thinking by 180degree so why not to choose politeness while taking or
confronting other even we are consoling other or telling true words…….
I always assume that Politeness
is the flower of humanity and in fact it is….
My guru has always proved to me that words can be played
well as you like then why not play in soft manner . We can give suggestion to
anybody but in indirect manner in a polite way, that very person will
understand the feeling of your order or words sentiment but if you insist
him\her in a rude way he may deflect from your intention and feel as insult however you were talking or honest
…….
Everybody in this very world has
own type of prestige and assumes or desire that people should talk to him in polite
manner…..
If your politeness doesn’t hurt
anybody feeling then why shouldn’t we apply?
But every time we can’t please
all people in all time however honesty and politeness are different parts
……………..